This week, I found a webaite called Awakening Artistry and a wonderful article on finding your calling by Tama J Kieves. I thought it was a lovely piece and appropriate for those of us with questions about what we are meant to be doing in life, especially after breast cancer treatment. The following article has been reproduced here with gratitude to and the permission of Tama.
Finding Your Calling
by Tama J. Kieves
“I’ve read all the self-help books, seen career professionals, and taken all the assessments and I still don’t know what I want or how to get there. I’m still confused.”
This is a comment I’ve heard a lot. I hear the frustration and it breaks my heart. You do have a calling and it will not fail you. But, too often, we fail ourselves bydemanding that this big, sweeping, passionate life fit into a little box and into our current, limited lives.
Here’s where most people make their mistake. They think it’s all about the actions they take. But action is the last and most incidental part of this equation. Living your calling is about changing the way you think, what you believe, what you know, and how deeply you allow and receive the information and inspiration that will liberate your greatness. Everyone is in a rush to “get there” and they trip themselves up with simplistic steps and inevitable disappointments.
This is the most amazing change of your lifetime and it deserves time, patience, attention, connection and all the support you can muster.
If you can change the way you think, you’ll change the actions you take. You’ll even change the way you take actions. You will act with love, genius, and a bold certainty. There will be less work and stress involved.
Still, most of us want to change our careers in a hurry and define it. What is my new career? How will I make money? How do I get there? How do I get there TODAY?
So, how do you find your calling? You stop trying to force the process into an old mold. You embark upon this path on its terms. There is a process. And it does work. Begin by asking the right questions and ditching questions that will take you nowhere.
Here’s three keys to help you begin to live your inspired life and discover the calling that calls you…. I could have called this guide, a guide on how to listen to yourself because it’s the same thing. Your way is already within you. I’m just trying to help you uncover what you already know.
1) Don’t Set Conditions on Your Love:
Ask “WHAT DO I LOVE?” But pay attention. The question is not “what do I love that makes money?” Or “what do I love that I’m qualified for?” Many of us clamor for answers, but then reject the nuggets we receive. We reject them because they are not “logical.” But remember, you are not looking for logical answers. You are looking past ordinary logic, to the secrets within you, secrets that have greater strength than you know. Do not use your ordinary mind to evaluate the clues to an extraordinary life. Be open. If you love walking your dog, that’s what you love. Start with any clue you know. Start doing more of that activity immediately. It will provide you with more clues. It will also uplift your mood and enhance your creativity; you will experience more synchronicity—those times of being in exactly the right place at the right time.
2) Just for Now, Not Forever:
“What will I do with the rest of my life?” is the wrong question. It’s terrifying. It locks you into one possibility for the rest of your days. Boy, you better get it right this time, says the fear inside of you. Look how much time you’ve already wasted, say the hecklers in your mind. No wonder why most people are paralyzed, not knowing what they would love to do. Can you imagine if you had to marry the first person you ever thought was attractive? It’s ridiculous to think that you will define what you will do for the rest of your life. This is a path of constant self-discovery and evolution. It’s a path of incremental shifts and understandings, big ahas, and precise action steps. You will always keep growing.
The only question to ask yourself, is “What do I want to do right now?” It does not need to be career-related. Remember, “What should I do right now, is not the same thing as what do I want to do?” Trust your instincts, even if they suggest taking a three month vacation. If you do not honor what you want in this present moment, your entire inquiry will be stalled.
3) You Don’t Need to Know How:
Your real dream has the power to part the seas. But only if you tap your true desire. Premature planning can drain your desires. The engineer and the wizard don’t belong in the same room. First you must secure your fantasy, before you engage the details of reality. If you’ve ever been to a brainstorming meeting, the facilitator tells you to embrace all ideas without interrupting questions or examination. In the idea stage, we simply want to feed the fire. We don’t want to compromise it or “be practical” just yet. First we want to seize our brazenly honest direction.
Later, you may start to explore your options for bringing your dream to fruition. Yet even then, you may not know “how” and that’s acceptable. You may not know how it will all work out or how you will get from A to Z, but you do know a step to take in this moment. In this moment, what feels like a true first step for you? Take that step and it will reveal another one. I often think of this as following the breadcrumb trail all the way to the Ginger Bread House. You don’t have a Mapquest or a GPS system. But you do have infallible instincts.
You can’t plan an inspired life. You can’t see how your dreams will unfold. But this life is bigger than your experience. Your mind only knows strategies from the past. But the inspired part of you, your heart or soul, has other strategies, strategies that might just take you from A to E to B to Z. “How will I get there is not a relevant question.” First decide where you want to go, even if you don’t see any way to get there. The details must take a backseat to the vision. You might not have a plan, but that doesn’t mean there isn’t one. The Inspired Self that offers the vision also knows how to complete it.
So, start asking….
What do I love? (and do more of it right now…)
What do I want to do right now?
What feels like a first true step for me to take?
And repeat over and over for the rest of your life. And the best of your life.
May you live your calling and fulfill your destiny. We need you here. And may you always be blessed upon your journey.
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