It’s the end of June and a chilly wintery day in Wellington. It’s a good day to write a Moving Forward Diary entry.
1.5 years on
It’s 1.5 years since I finished all my cancer treatment and I have noticed that overall, I am pretty much participating as a well person in most areas of life now. I am tentatively and increasingly more confident about getting out in to life and committing to activities e.g. I have three night classes on each week. A year ago, I would have found one night class a stretch.
I am now facing just normal everyday ups and downs in the main. I still have quite a few medical follow up appointments but I seem to be able to manage most things including work as long as I have quite a bit of flexibility e.g. ability to work at home.
In the last two months, I have experienced a lot of change including leaving a work role that I really enjoyed. And finally, I feel that out of the creative chaos, a new way has presented itself.
Health tracking upwards
My health has been very overall good and I continue to be cancer free. I have had a couple of winter flus already this year and don’t quite feel at my best in the mornings with a few headaches and a couple of migraines. However, overall I am tracking upwards and I feel that my fitness is improving.
I have focused on my nutrition quite a bit with lots of vegetable soups and berry smoothies. And I have started attending regular yoga classes this month.
The Right Partner Does Not See Breast Cancer as a Negative
I’m single once more but feeling very positive about my relationship of 2013. It really is true that when you find the right partner, they do not see mastectomy scars or breast cancer negatively and just want to be there for you. The whole relationship was a gift and very healing. I feel a lot more confident of my worth as a partner now and that there is a great future out there waiting for me.
Contract Endings and Beginnings
Lots of new things have presented themselves this year. I have finally realised that in life, Endings are just Beginnings. One work contract ends and another one presents itself. I am feeling very positive about my career and life path. I’ve been gradually working towards a work/life balance where I can work at home some of the time, where I’m able to write and be authentic in my messages about surviving breast cancer. Gradually all the seeds I’ve sown over the last two to three years seem to be sprouting. It is great to see.
I still need to reign in my overwork tendencies and do more relaxation and hobbies that don’t involve a screen or a keyboard. I want to try some more creative things and luckily, most of my work is creativity based at present.
Ideal Job Description
This week, I remembered what my career mentor Sue told me about finding your ideal job:
- Write your ideal job description, including all the tasks you enjoy e.g. writing, sales etc.
- Then give percentages of time that you’d like to spend on each type of task e.g. writing 50%, sales 20%. Remember that you are not meant to work more than five days per week.
Once you have done this, you know where you want to head as you know what your ideal job is.
I always end up with a mix of activities (portfolios), never just one thing that I want to do. Right now, it is writing, website work, breast cancer advocacy projects and a range of hobbies. It is a bit complex juggling everything but they are all things I want to do.
I also think there is a pressure inside me to really live as over the last years of treatment and recovery, I wasn’t always able to do that. We never know how much time we have left so it’s great to do what we want now, not wait for the future to make us happy.
Have you made any changes to your career and work/life balance after breast cancer? I find having flexibility to work at home really good for me in ensuring that I get eight hours of sleep every night for example. What have you found that works for you?
Bye for now, Andrea x